I love my life.  I live a life of effortless fulfillment and people ask me all the time how I can do that and be so calm.  The answer is; I have given up trying to control circumstances and people in my life.   In order to have a life you love, you must first love yourself.  There is no difference between loving yourself and loving your life.  The key is Self-acceptance. 

“Effortlessness” sounds easy but can be the hardest and scariest thing we can do.  What it means is that you do what you feel like doing, when you feel like doing it. You let go of the notion that anyone else has your answers but you.  You release social conditioning and external validation and live for yourself.  You do things because it feels like the right thing for you to do and you serve others because it is what you want to do and it brings you joy. 

Effortlessness does not mean you stay in bed all day.  You do what needs doing in each moment.  When you dwell on the past and future, your mind becomes muddled with worry and fear and you try to control things because you don’t trust yourself.  When you let go of control and fear, you begin to trust yourself and develop faith that you are perfectly orchestrating things from a broader perspective even if you can’t see what is being done.  

You develop the art of effortless living by maintaining a clear and present mind.  Recently the clarity of my thoughts has brought me some amazing experiences.  I wanted an agent to represent me.  A few months ago, my publisher had mentioned a guy who I instantly knew I wanted to work with. I know I wanted someone to work with me but had that confused with a romantic partnership.  The second I realized I wanted to keep those things separate, the exact guy I wanted to work with popped into my life and it has been a perfect symbiotic relationship ever since.

The coolest thing, however was that I wanted to pay off a few bills I have recently accumulated.  I decided that I would like $10,000 and would allow the universe to take care of the details. Within 2 weeks, my soon-to-be-ex offered to adjust our settlement and would give me $10,000 now and more money each month than we previously agreed upon if that would help me get on my feet faster.  I didn’t have to control or beg or freak out, it was just offered to me.  I didn’t even have to tell him I wanted it.  All I had to do was trust and accept it when offered.